Couples and Family Counseling
CAN COUPLES COUNSELING HELP?
Couples counseling (people who are engaged, husbands-wives) is a form of therapeutic process designated to help couples and/or families to overcome issues in their relationship(s), face change, or simply to improve on their relationship(s). Many different techniques may be used.
Each session may be different depending on the circumstance, issues, and dynamics of the case, and all are evaluated on a case by case basis. Some situations involve all persons in all sessions, while others, only some of the sessions, other’s, each person is given time to have an individual session, so that they may be able to express themselves freely, only to come together again and continue as a couple/family to work on the issues.
The majority of cases communication techniques are taught. Such as respectful listening, where ground rules are established that only one person speaks at a time, no interruptions. Asking if the person has finished yet before you start with your response. Perhaps the listener repeating the high points of what was just said, to relay that they heard correctly, and if they did not receive the proper message, this would provide the opportunity to have it corrected, before responding. Other rules would be no yelling, hand singles to mean something like, I’m getting upset and I need to take a break for 30 min to calm down (as an example), at which point. The conversation stops, 30 min break, no more talking, the person who uses the signal leaves and MUST return within the agreed time to continue where the left off, so the person speaking continues where they left off, first, then discuss what happened. Many other rules can be created and utilized for each individual case and situation and will be agreed upon by all involved and the therapist.
No matter what your goal is for therapy, the important thing is consistency with the sessions, agreements/rules, and dedication to each other and the work which is being done in therapy.
In family counseling the basic notions mentioned in the previous paragraph are similar, but the big difference is that involves more members, that sometimes a second therapist is needed in the session because of the number of family members involved in the process. Thus, and like in couple’s counseling, the main aim is to facilitate the communication and understanding between the family members, in order to improve the relationship between them. At Maabar, we prepared to help you and your family no matter what the issue:
- Difficulties between Parents and child.
- Difficulties with teens/adolescents.
- Issues related to divorce or grief (the death of a family member).
- Adjusting to a new marriage and blended family.
In both kind of counseling the members are engaged in a therapeutic process that can provide a safe and secure environment for the members to discuss their issues in a way that would engage them to improve the relationship they have. Another aspect of these two types of counseling is linked with the relational issues with depression and anxiety. Problems that exist between family members and in couples are more likely to bring negative feelings like sadness and stress, that if would stay for long to develop to depression and anxiety that instead of helping the situation, they have the tendency to aggravate the problems.